Types of Love: Know the rationality of love!


Kinds of Love

Kinds of love

Everyone seems to be obsessed with romantic love. Romantic love is, in fact, a modern concept. But there are other forms of love. By remaining preoccupied with romantic love, do we neglecting other forms of love?

Romantic love – This lover continuously thinks about the loved one. He’s is jealous, unrealistic, and can tolerate anything.  He could be attracted by physical appearance and needs repeated assurance from the loved one in return.

This type of love lasts for a few years until the baby is through nursing and can walk and run.

Best friend or companionate love –This lover enjoys the proximity or companionship or intimacy of a close friendship.

This form of love is gradual, slowly developing, trusting, committed, not intense or desperation or sexual obsession.

Unselfish love – This lover is dedicated, self-sacrificing and gives love without expecting anything in return. He’s gentle, caring and dutiful.

Logical love –This lover carefully selects the “right person” with compatible interests, similar education, and religion, a harmonious personality, common values, and has long-term goals.

Game-playing love –This person may be charming but he or she is hardly a lover, only interested in the dating game and relish meeting, impressing and seducing and shows no commitment.

Beliefs and Myths about Love  

Beliefs & Myths about love
  • Love grows after marriage or Love ends after the marriage.
  • People who are in love are crazy or a wise marries for love.
  • Whether love happens at the first-sight or love develops after being known to each other after years. 
  • Love solves most of the problems of life or it’s one way of finding happiness or you can’t live with a man/woman and you can’t live without them.
  • Love is nature’s trick to insure the species or Love and sex are two different things.
  • Whether love is the only thing needed for a good marriage.  Love wins all–or–Constant work and many coping skills are needed to maintain a marriage.
  • Love is blind or an addiction–or—Marriages are made in heaven.
  • People who are in love shouldn’t have sex until they are married–or- Sex is the most intense and noble expression of love.
  • Love dominates all other interests in other people–or–You can love two people at the same time.
  • Love is just between a man and women–or–Love between two women or two men is exactly the same as between straights.

Analyze the above-mentioned statements. You will find that sometimes both of these different statements are true. Sometimes, these are questionable. Yet these statements play a major role in thinking about forms of love. But these statements will definitely help you in knowing the rationality of love.

Types of Lover

Types of love

There are many types of lovers and is expressed and felt in many ways. Falling in love can be frightening, vulnerable, ego-boosting, reassuring and fun. Attachment is a complex combination of approaches and avoidances, come-ons and defenses.

Dance-away lover:  He’s an expert at wooing but fears for permanency. This love fades away after a few months. This lover although initially successful in assuming the relationship will fail and may reject in due time.

Anxious Ingénue or Beginner Lover: He’s insecure, rushes into love without evaluating the partner> When the relationship settles down, he or she begins to see the mistakes.

Disarmer: He is warm and understanding and tries to protect the lover from all stress and pain, often degrades own rights and emotional needs in order to please the lover. This self-sacrifice may be tiresome.

The provider: He concentrates more on action than words, more tactile than verbal because of underlying insecurity.

The prize winner: He seems to do everything right. He seems to be the best, doing well at work and a great lover.

The pleaser: He or she tends to be different. He/she lives to please others and asks for nothing in return. This may be due to fear of failure or wants to be a martyr.

The fragile lover: He is so scared of life’s problems and feels helpless and seeks a partner whom he/she can depend on, who will protect him/her.

  1. Secure lover–comfortable, trusted and never worry about being hurt.
  2. Anxious lover—wants closeness but seems to hold back.
  3. Avoidant lover—don’t need a lot of closeness, feels independent and don’t want to depend on others or have them depending on me.

By Suryodaya Rajguru

I am Suryodaya Rajguru, a professional web content writer, and have a deep interest in blogging related to various topics like Technology, media, gadgets, and science. It’s a small endeavor on the part of me to communicate my perspective on the said topics.